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Desolated Dreams

February 18, 2009

As a child, there is no other person or thing that is stronger than your parents. I viewed my dad to be the strongest of all dads. I remember kids on the playground would quarrel over “whose dad could beat up whose.” It doesn’t matter if your parents were small and frail, but through the eyes of naivety your parents were invincible. Our parents were gods. As we grew, reality showed that our parents were no stronger than the man or woman next to them. Time passed and our parents became weak and mortal as all humans should be. Even still, I think a lot of times we forget that our parents are everyday average people like ourselves.

In college were always asking ourselves, what we want to do when we graduate. Once we’ve mapped out our lives, we spend so much time focusing on achieving our dreams; we forget how we even got here. Have you ever asked your parents their dreams? What were your parents’ “dream occupation” before they devoted their lives to becoming a full-time guardian?

We forget that are parents had dreams and goals of their own. My mom once told me that she dreamed of becoming a nurse. An occupation she can be proud of, helping those in need.  …can anyone guess what she does today? My parents are owners of a small dry cleaners. Sun up to sun down, six days a week, they work diligently to support me and my sister. I see my parents breaking sweat for a job they don’t even want to do and it tears me up inside.

Every day, I look around my dorm and I notice the “north face” jackets hanging from my door knob, or the 22″ HD T.V. sitting across my bed, and I think, “Life’s alright.”I don’t think life is good, but life is alright. Even more absurd is that, I believe having all these possessions are normal, when I should be thanking my parents for all the blessings I have in my life. Something I always need to remember is that my parents have given up their dreams, so I can achieve mine. The caliber of my future success rides more heavily than my first impression. If I fail, I not only fail myself, but my parents. If I succeed, I create something of myself and liberate my parents from their burden of possible regret from giving up their dreams.

More than feeling the pressure, I just want to say…

Thanks Mom & Dad,

Your hardwork and sacrifice is something I won’t ever truly understand.



Alone Together

February 15, 2009

“Just as I shall lie alone in the grave, so, in essence, do I live alone.” –Anton Pavlovich Chekhov (1860-1904)

When I was younger my parents would always tell me, you’re only going to go as far as your willing to. No one is there to help you reach anywhere, and success follows according to your own doings. Every now and then, I hear someone say, “It’s all about connections.” If that really is the case, then success is defined by our opportunities of luck presented in life. Maybe, the real answer is a combination of both theories; determination and luck, joint together.

Whichever the answer is, I’ve concluded that at the end of our lives we’re going to realize that everything we have, or don’t have is because of ourselves. You can skim through the long list of friends you have on facebook and say some of them will be there for you no matter what life throws at you. But, for how long will they “have your back?” and how far are they willing to go out of their way? At some point, the great bond the two of you share reaches a peak, a dead end, where a situation presents itself and that person can no longer be there for you. Truly, we are all alone in this world. We are alone together.

People freely use the term “best friends forever” or say that “were not like other people, we’re going to last.” Even when you think two people are bonded by the seal of history and experiences, we come to realize that any and all relationships are fragile. Time goes on to prove that friends disappear, loved ones pass away, and lovers break-up. Think about the important people of your life, and ask “how much time do I have left with this person?” The grandfather clock ticks away and before you know it, that person is gone.

As I write this entry, I could only think of one bond that can never be broken. Possibly the only unbreakable bond is the bond of God and the believer. However, that relationship seems like a one-way street. The believer prays to God, speaks to God, and worships God, but God answers in ways that aren’t apparent to the believer, even impossible to understand.

Referring back to human to human connections, none is lasting. There are no groups, parties, races, or societies, only individuals. As individuals we decide what we do and who we become. What I’m really trying to say is that, maybe I have prioritized my life in all the wrong ways. Til now, I have invested so much time and energy into bonds that will most likely fade away. Perhaps, success can only be achieved by living for one’s self only. It’s a terrible way to view life, but it’s realistic.